My Major, Major Mistake...

If I were to be asked by somebody (who may not be as handsome as William Baldwin) with this question: "What is one big mistake that you made in your life, and what did you do to make it right?", I would have said, "my major, major problem, err mistake, was being married to my ex-husband."  To make it right? it's my decision to end the marriage. that's all. thank you.

Venus Raj is lucky and at 22, is young enough not to experience those nightmares that I went through.  Good for her...

Retrouvaille

I always believe that married couples who are in the verge of separating need help.  Marriage counseling plays a significant role in patching a wounded marriage.  But a couple need to be humble first by acknowledging that indeed, there is a marital problem and BOTH parties must be willing to solve it.


In today's issue of Philippine Star, one of the featured articles that caught my attention was that entitled, "Retrouvaille program saves many marriages".  Accordingly, the Retrouvaille program, the Catholic ministry designed to help trouble married couples renew their relationship, has already saved many marriage.  Retrouvaille is a French word which means to rediscover.

If interested, there will be a Retrouvaille weekend seminar on August 14-15, 2010 at the Mother of Mercy Spiritual Center in Tagaytay.   One may contact Fr. Dave Clay at tel nos. 098-902-0511 and 525-0308, Mar at 0927-315-3765 or Fe at 0918-918-7670.  All calls will be held in strictest confidence.

BC Bloggers 4

Just like what I posted in my other blog, ripples in surigao, i am more than encourage to update this blog.  As already mentioned therein, I will be joining BC Bloggers 4 soon and I hope this blog, among with my other blogs, will be subsequently registered.

If you are also interested, please check this link. 

Sacred Heart O Love Divine

Let me post here the lyrics of Sacred Heart song.  This is not just an ordinary song.  It is a prayer.  It is very much meaningful especially for those who are suffering emotionally right now.  Here it is:

O Sacred Heart! O Love Divine!

O Sacred Heart! O Love Divine!
Do keep us near to Thee;
And make our love so like to Thine
That we may holy be.

Heart of Jesus hear!
O heart of Love Divine!
Listen to our Prayer;
Make us always Thine.

O Temple pure! O House of gold!
Our heaven here below
What sweet delight, what wealth untold,
From Thee do ever flow.

Heart of Jesus hear!
O heart of Love Divine!
Listen to our Prayer;
Make us always Thine.

O Wounded Heart, O Font of tears!
O Throne of grief and pain!
Whereon for the eternal years,
Thy love for man does reign.

Heart of Jesus hear!
O heart of Love Divine!
Listen to our Prayer;
Make us always Thine.

Ungrateful hearts, forgetful hearts,
The hearts of man have been,
To wound Thy side with cruel darts
Which they have made by sin.

Devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus

I attended a 1st Friday mass here in the office few hours ago. Accordingly, first Friday is intended for the devotion of Sacred Heart of Jesus.

I remember when I was still in Butuan, I was still suffering from depression then (caused by my ex-husband's betrayal), I found solace in churches be it in Lianga, or at Butuan's Sto. Niño Shrine or Cathedral.

One Friday late afternoon, I just arrived in Butuan from a special audit in Lianga, I decided to drop by the Cathedral. There I chanced upon devotees of Sacred Heart of Jesus doing the praise and worship.

The feeling I had while I was in the church was indescribable. It was as if the deep burden I was carrying in my heart then was unloaded... That is, after I silently sobbed while kneeling and praying inside the church.  I even covered my face with my already tear-soaked handkerchief just to cover myself.  I was hoping I would not be identified by people and just be plainly oblivious to other churchgoers.

But please, don't get me wrong.  I am not boasting that I am a prayerful person.  I would just like to express what I went through when I was still nursing a badly bruised heart.

Anyway, since then, I became a devotee. But considering that I could not keep up with the church's early schedule of devotion, I decided to buy a prayer handbook and pray in the comforts of my bedroom.

The healing process was not easy... It took so much time... With the help of prayer, I gradually learned to deal not only with my depression but also, forgiveness...

Why My Ex-Husband Agreed To Annul Our Marriage (last part)

Who would not be scared to be placed in a controversial limelight especially when one is guilty of his own crime. Of course, if you were in my ex-husband's shoes, you would pay for the annulment fees, right?

Yeah, that's what he did. As to from whom and/or from which he got the money to fund for such a costly endeavor, that is... no longer my business. :)

Why My Ex-Husband Agreed To Annul Our Marriage (part 2 of 3)

Moreover, the next issue that I raised was, who is going to pay for the annulment expenses? Certainly not me! When we got married, our officemates and common friends said it was as if my ex-husband won the lotto while I, I lost all my fortune thru a fire. They must have seen a premonition... of a doomed marriage.

Anyway, back to who should pay for the annulment case: I convinced my ex-husband by intimidating him that rather than paying for a lawyer to defend him for a concubinage case that I would file against him and his mistress for an adultery, he has no other choice but to pay for the annulment case. There would also be a possible consequence that their lovechild might be dragged to the scandal, as well as, evidence of scandalous circumstances that my ex-husband and his mistress created.

(to be continued)

Why My Ex-Husband Agreed To Annul Our Marriage

I am writing this article to give you an idea of why I said in my previous post that my ex-husband was forced to cooperate and pay for the annulment fees.

Months before I filed for an annulment case against my ex-husband, I called him asking that our marriage be finally put to an end... legally. I explained that there is no more reason to save our marriage since: 1) we don't love each other anymore; 2) his infidelity is grossly incurable; 3) we already have our own separate lives; 4) at that time, he was already living in with his mistress, with whom he has a lovechild; and not to mention, 5) he housed his mistress in a place where a number of our COA officemates are residing (delicadeza, are you there?)

to be continued...

Help! Attention: my ex-husband!

I've been legally single since the beginning of this year (please refer to my previous posts on this). Unfortunately, until now I could not use my maiden name in my government transactions yet as I don't have the necessary papers to support my change of name. It takes a long process. (Sigh!)

One of the requirements needed is the certificate of finality of decision to be obtained from the regional trial court where my annulment was filed and decided upon. I requested for such document thru my lawyer, Atty. Azura. But until now, I still didn't receive it. According to Atty. Azura, my ex-husband has not yet fully paid the filing/certification fee of P1,000+.

I understand why my ex-husband would no longer cooperate on paying the necessary fees and all. There is no reason anymore for him to get intimidated (as what I did before just to force him to cooperate and pay for the annulment fees).

Well, that's just his unconscious way of showing of who he really is! Now, back to my dilemma, I need help! Anybody, please!

It's Confirmed, I'm Single... Again?

To those who are asking: yes, my marriage is finally over. I got the judgment on my annulment case just this January. Actually, there is no marriage to speak of from the very beginning. That is, if I am correct in interpreting the phrase, "null and void ab initio", from the dispositive portion of the decision. Hence, should I say, "I was never been married"?

Speaking of decision, I'll be posting some of its excerpts soon!

Keep posted! :)

My ATM Card

I was browsing through my ATM transaction slips when I remember that sometime ago, in the year 2004 to be exact, something happened to my ATM card while I was away.

My ex-husband and I were still together then. We went to Cebu for a vacation. We left my house and my car to the care of my ex-brother-in-law (my ex-husband's youngest brother). I did not realize then that my LBP ATM card fell from my bag while I was in the car right before we departed for Cebu.

Upon our return to Butuan, I was relieved when I found that my ATM card was at the passenger seat of my car. To my surprise, my account balance was decreased by P1000 (don't laugh. P1000 was still A LOT then). I then inquired from LBP-Butuan. That ever gracious staff (thanks to her) revealed that indeed there was a cash withdrawal made from my account at the LBP-Butuan ATM machine... WHILE I WAS IN CEBU.

So, who was the culprit? I then remember that weeks ago before that incident, I oftentimes requested my ex-brother-in-law to withdraw money from my account. Hence, he knew my ATM PIN. And nobody knew my ATM PIN, not even my ex-husband (as I don't trust him that much), except me and my ex-brother-in-law.

So, to repeat the question, who was the culprit?

Trooping to the RTC

Last January 4, I got a text from somebody congratulating me for the positive result of my annulment case. Since the sender's mobile number is unregistered (I changed cp, by the way), I immediately assumed it was from my lawyer. I texted back that I might drop by the Regional Trial Court (RTC) Branch I as I was still in Butuan then.

When I was about to ask for my copy of the decision, I was told that the said document was already in the possession of my lawyer. It turned out it that it was not my lawyer who texted me. Never mind the identity, lest I might be cited for contempt. (ha?)

Fast forward: I got the document.. not from RTC Branch I but from the one who texted me. Who gave it to me is no longer relevant. I was given specific instruction not to tell anybody.

For now, I am awaiting for the end of that endless 15-day period. When would that be? I'm wondering...

i love you, my goodbye

if my memory serves me right, it was a week before christmas day when i texted my lawyer about the status of my annulment case. i was surprised to know that it was still pending at the regional trial court, meaning, the decision was not yet forwarded to the solgen (solicitor general) for concurrence.

my lawyer then promised to have it sent to solgen. that means, i would have to wait for another fifteen (15) working days from the day it was supposedly received by the solgen.

i could not wait for that moment when i will be using my maiden name again. i am so excited! i love it! my goodbye! :)