she is still so lucky..

last saturday, i met dr. joy (a pediatrician) while we were attending a seminar. i later found out that, aside from the fact that we have the same three-letter name ending in letter "Y", we also share the same fate (almost!).. in marriage.

just like me, she got married twice (civil and church).

just like me, she has no children (thank God! we both agree, indeed, it is a blessing in disguise!).

just like me, she is financially independent from her husband.

just like me, she bought properties from her own pocket.

and just like my ex-husband, hers did not contribute for the payment of their domestic expenses.

and just like my ex-husband, hers cheated on her..

oh another thing! dr. joy discovered that she is just the 2nd wife. how did her husband do that? her husband applied for a late registration at the NSO and used another name. he was able to secure a birth certificate needed for the proceesing of marriage license, blah, blah, blah.

me? i believe i am also just the 2nd wife. unfortunately, i don't have a proof. i just hold on to what my ex-husband said days after we got married. he married lorlaine (check my previous posts re her identity) solemnized by the mayor (or the judge?) at the municipality of santiago, agusan del norte. according to him, the marriage contract was intercepted at the local civil registrar just in time before it was supposedly submitted to the NSO.

the only difference i noticed between dr. joy's fate and mine are:

a) her husband is earning much (he is an OFW), while mine, a government employee, who does not depend on his net take home pay (the lowest allowed by the government) but relied on the "donations" from the suppliers and his assigned agencies.

b) since her husband is also earning, he was not considered a leech to her, while mine.. never mind!

c) she did not change her name when she got married. good for her. me? i changed it (sigh!). i suggested to my husband (then!) that i would just be using my maiden name. he got angry! hmmp! if only i knew that we would just come to this point.. (sigh again!)

for now, dr. joy is just waiting for the decision of the bigamy case she filed against her husband. the decision will come out anytime soon.

dr. joy will be free again.

she is still lucky..

who is he anyway?

i went home from office at around 10pm last night. no, i did not render an overtime. an officemate from another department came over and talked about a relationship she just ended.

accordingly, her ex-boyfriend was a certified user. that's what her other colleagues describe him. there was one time they went to Mall of Asia. her ex-boyfriend wanted her to buy him an Armani perfume. although she can afford it, she did not give in. from then on, it had become an issue between them..

i told her, "hmm.. been there!".

i can relate to her. when we were still together, my ex-husband would ask me to buy him things for himself like books, shirts, and Levis' pants! at that time, i didn't own such expensive pants but i bought few pairs for him anyway lest it would become a cause for an argument. too bad, because of him i forgot to value myself..

he would resent me everytime i arrived home from travel empty-handed. there was even one instance that i gave him a white shirt which my brother gave me. he was disgusted to find out that it was just a promo shirt from a client of my brother.

by the way, do i have to mention that he was so disappointed when he received only a bar of chocolate from my sister who came home from United Kingdom?

my two brothers also got chocolates but they did not complain.. then, why would he?